The Nuts and Bolts of My Divorce
A good friend convinced me to write this type of blog. If you read any of my other blogs you know that this is all my personal opinions on life, so don't think I am an expert on anything I say.
I just want to be able to vent about my divorce and family but do it from a Christian perspective. This site will be primarily for Christians who are going through divorce or tough times in their marriage, and although my marriage didn't get saved....my hope would be that yours could be.
James 5:16 ESV / 65 helpful votes
Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.1 Peter 3:7 ESV / 46 helpful votes
Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.
1 Corinthians 7:2-5 ESV / 37 helpful votes
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
Ok, let me let the cat out of the bag in case anyone wonders about me. I had been married for 16 years and had 3 children. I got saved in 2008 and from that point Satan set out to and succeeded in destroying my family. As far as Faith in God goes, my wife was definitely the weaker vessel and Satan took full advantage of her. Now, my divorce wasn't by any means, just her fault. There were years of neglecting her views and her feelings that led her away from me. Now the bottom line is though, in my case, if my wife had been living a relationship of Faith in Jesus I know I wouldn't be talking to you right now. So lets dive in head first to the crappy thing called divorce...............
James says to confess your sins to each other and to pray for each other....I'm guilty of not doing this..why would this help? well, if you think about it, if you confess your sins to your spouse it makes you vulnerable.....and vulnerability, in my opinion, is a way to connect to your spouse in the most personal and honest means available to couples.
In my case...I had demons in my closet that I didn't tell my spouse about until she had already spilled the beans about her demons and sins. You see, I did things years ago before I was saved, that I never told her. When I got saved, I should have trusted God enough to confess all of my sins to her. But instead I just kept them to myself rather than dealing with my past. Had I done it God's way I feel there is a strong possibility that the honesty of confession would have brought my wife and I closer together. I think that this is why James says to confess our sins to one another.
Tomorrow I will pick up with 1 Peter 3:7...Hope you join me.... Father, thank you for the truth in your word. Thank you that you have given us the keys to happy marriages...all we have to do is obey your word. Please allow me to continue to heal and learn to forgive the people in my life who have been used by satan to cause emotional harm to me and my family.
